I’ve been thinking about success, real success.

Not the kind that makes people comfortable, but the kind that makes them question things. People love an underdog. They’ll root for you when you’re struggling. But what happens when you start winning, really winning? That’s when things get complicated.

Most people are fine with you being stable. They’ll even support you becoming successful, up to a point. But when you start pushing beyond expectations, reaching for something beyond what’s considered reasonable, things change.

Surviving vs. Thriving

When I was in the foster care system, the goal was simple: stabilization. The system wasn’t designed to help us thrive, it was designed to make sure we made it to adulthood in one piece.

Now, in a world where stability should be the bare minimum, simply reaching adulthood wouldn’t be considered wild success. But in the world I came from, just surviving was seen as an achievement.

Looking back, I see the pattern: most people will help you get to stable ground, but few will walk with you when you decide to climb higher. That’s because stability is comfortable. Success, especially wild success, is disruptive.

A Defining Moment: What They Wrote About Me

Within a year of graduating college, I petitioned the State of Missouri for my case notes. Federal and state laws require copious notes to be kept on kids in custody. As a child, I went through countless psychological and intelligence tests.

And what I found in those records shook me.

According to the records, I was “below average” and “overreaching” in my ambition. Imagine reading that about yourself. Imagine being told, on paper, that your drive was unrealistic.

That’s what happens when you decide to push beyond survival. The world has a way of defining what’s reasonable for you. I’ve seen this even in my professional career. It tells you, 'This is how far you can go. Don’t ask for more. Don’t stretch. This is your cap.

The Difference Between Help and Growth

There are different types of people in your life:

• Enablers – They help you survive the struggle.
• Helpmates – They walk with you through the process.
• Growth partners – The ones who challenge you, push you, and demand more from you when you’re ready to break past the barriers of what’s expected.

And here’s what you’ll notice: when you decide to push past “good enough” into the realm of wild success, some of the very people who once supported you will start pulling back. Not because you did anything wrong, but because your ambition forces them to confront their own limitations, to confront their own caps.

The Joseph Effect: When Success Becomes a Problem

We’ve all seen this movie before, haven’t we? And it’s nothing new, just look at Joseph in the Bible. (Genesis 37:5-11).

His brothers had no issue with him when he was just another son in the family. But the moment Joseph started speaking about his dreams, about a higher calling, they turned against him.

His success wasn’t a problem until it became wild success.

• They were fine when he was ordinary.
• They were okay when he showed potential.
• But when he started stepping into a bigger vision, they resented him.

And that’s what happens when you elevate. The same people who once encouraged you might struggle to embrace the version of you that refuses to be limited.

The Process of Becoming Wildly Successful

James 1:12 says, “Blessed is the one who perseveres under trial because, having stood the test, that person will receive the crown of life that the Lord has promised.”

Success, especially wild success, isn’t handed out. It’s a process. It requires trials, endurance, and faith. It requires you to take a bigger risk and make a bigger bet on yourself.

Many people will help you through the trial, but not all will celebrate you when you come out on the other side. That’s where things shift. That’s where you go from being someone they support to someone they don’t quite know how to relate to anymore.

I’ve seen it in my own life. Early on, I received handouts. Then, I started getting hand-ups. But when I realized I wanted more than just success, I wanted impact, I had to make some key shifts:

• I had to think differently and invest time and treasure differently.
• I had to connect with people who believed and could see me differently.
• And most importantly, I had to root my source in God.

Because when your source is God, your success isn’t dependent on people.

Maybe This Is Where You Are Right Now

Maybe you’re feeling this right now. Maybe you’ve hit a level of success that’s “acceptable,” and you’re starting to wonder, should I go further? Should I aim higher?

And maybe, just maybe, you’re sensing the resistance.

• The subtle shift in how people treat you.
• The unspoken discomfort when you start talking about bigger things.
• The moments of doubt creeping in, making you wonder if you’re asking for too much.

If that’s you, keep going.

Because God didn’t give you a small vision. He gave you a wild one.

Reinforcing Your Source

If you’re going to be wildly successful, you have to come to terms with three things:

1. Not everyone is meant to come with you. Some people are only in your life for a season.
2. You have to push beyond what’s “acceptable.” Stability is a fine place to pass through, but don’t let it be your final destination. You have to stretch now more than ever to reach the next level.
3. Your foundation has to be bigger than human approval. If your growth is tied to what others think, you’ll always be limited by their comfort zones.

People will cheer for you when you’re struggling. They’ll rally around you when you’re stabilizing.

But wild success?

That requires something deeper, faith, resilience, and the willingness to walk alone if necessary.

Because in the end, the real challenge isn’t just success. It’s daring to succeed wildly, even when it makes others uncomfortable.

Will you rise to it?

And if this doesn’t speak to you directly, maybe there’s someone in your life who needs this encouragement. Forward it to them. Because sometimes, all it takes is a reminder that they’re not alone on this journey.

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